Tuesday, February 12, 2019

I am who I am

Have you ever had someone try and change who you are? Well, I am going to tell you it is difficult and it just isn’t going to happen.

I use the words “I am who I am” to explain that I am happy with who I am and that I am not going to let other people try and change me to be what they expect me to be. Sure, I may listen to the person and if it is something that I also see that could be improved I will work on changing it but I will not let anyone dictate who I should be and how I should act. It is amazing how many people will try and make you fit what they expect even when it isn’t who you are and it is never going to be you.

I have heard people say that I should be taller or I should be thinner. Yes, I know I would like to be a little thinner than I am but at my age, I won’t be growing any taller so that is something that just isn’t going to happen. Being a certain shape is something that I manage and I will not let anyone force me to change my shape if it isn’t something that I would end up happy with. I have been extremely skinny before and I had to admit sure it was nice in some ways but I wasn’t happy so why would I want to go back to being that person again.

What is important is making sure that you are happy with yourself and changing just because you want to make someone else happy isn’t a good idea but you aren’t going to be happy with the results no matter what. The reason you change is to make yourself happy and that is the biggest reason to make any changes. Sure people can make suggestions but that is all they are and that is how you should hear them. If someone doesn’t like how you act or how you look remember it is just their personal opinion and you don’t need to make them happy if it isn’t going to make you happy as well.

Pleasing others instead of pleasing yourself isn’t good for you and that is something that everyone needs to understand. Knowing that you are happy with who you are and being able to stand with your head up high is what is important. Being you and not letting others try and change you to just meet their expectations is important. We are all a little different and no matter if you change for one person you aren’t going to make someone else happy so that is something else you need to remember.

I am who I am is what I say to people that try and change me and I know that as long as I am happy with me and I please some people especially those that love me unconditionally I will remain that person that I am happy with.

Monday, January 28, 2019

Social media

It is amazing how many people think that Facebook is a place where someone else will help them with everything especially if they are in a group.

I belong to a number of groups on Facebook and have seen some very interesting questions that people have asked. Here are some of the questions that I have seen and some of my thoughts about them:

1. I’m in desperate need of a new project, haven’t crocheted in months! What’s everyone working on?
I immediately see this and think you belong to a group that shows projects that people are working on so why do you have to ask to see things, just scroll down the page and you will see a lot of projects that are just finished or are being worked on currently.

2. Are there any patterns that would be considered beachy? I searched the site and didn’t see any.
What site are you looking at because this is a Facebook group but you really didn’t give us enough information? This is something that I have seen very often when someone mentions that they have checked the site but they don’t say the site they have looked at.

3. Where can I find free patterns?
Now this question is from the Crochet Crowd Social Facebook page and it does make me laugh because it is a group for people that crochet and know about the Crochet Crowd website. There is an entire Crochet Crowd website, which is identified in the group, that has patterns and a lot of other information provided so why not check there. My other reply might have been have you googled “free crochet patterns” and what you want to make or are we suppose to guess what you are looking for.

4. Where can I find tutorials on learning how to crochet?
Now this question is from the Crochet Crowd Social Facebook page and it does make me laugh because it is a group for people that crochet and know about the Crochet Crowd website. There is an entire website (The Crochet Crowd) that has access to tutorials and a lot of other information provided so why not check there. Again the website is identified in the group.

5. Where can I find a pattern to make a shawl for myself?
My immediate answer to this question would have you tried googling for ideas or have you checked out Ravelry, which is quite often found through the various google searches? Of course, there are times that I just scroll by these questions because I think it is best otherwise my answer wouldn’t be very friendly. I understand that when you are in a group you can get help from other members of the group but the idea is also not to use the group as your personal Google.

As you can see there can be some very interesting questions asked within social media and especially Facebook. I understand that not everyone knows how to use google extremely well but at least trying to find things and then asking for help is better. I have seen some questions in one group and they are very clear and it makes you feel good.

Here is one of those questions:
1. I'm looking for a chart but I can't remember the name of it or who the artist was. The chart had an owl flying a key to a lock in the ground. It was a relatively recent release. I remember it being a very beautiful chart with lots of soft colors. I've put every keyword I can think of into the search bar and am coming up with nothing (though my wish list keeps getting bigger every time I try to find this thing). Can anyone help me out in identifying the chart that doesn't want to be found?
This question was on the Heaven and Earth Design Facebook group and of course the person provided enough information that someone was very quickly able to tell them the name of the patter as well as the designer. This is the type of question that I enjoy seeing because at least it gives enough information so that people know you have done some looking and just need a little bit of help.

Social media is something that a lot of us understand and are part of but knowing when not to reply to a question that is posted is something that I have learned to do. If you are part of a group and have a question make sure that you are asking the right type of question and also try and show that you have done some of your own research before asking your question. You will probably be surprised at the type of answer you will get and it will probably help you a lot more than just asking a general question.

The other thing that really bothers me about some groups is when people ask what is on your hook tonight or spam me with ideas for a baby girl afghan. Both of these aren’t great for the group because it just means that one thread ends up with a lot of pictures but no descriptions and they really aren’t very useful. Think before you ask this type of questions because remember with all the various groups there are it can get overwhelming to see all of this type of chatter.

If you are working on something or have finished something and you think the group would like to see it, go ahead and post it and remember you will probably be asked a few questions about it so if you have to answer them in your original post it makes things a lot easier for everyone.

Social media is something that can be very helpful when you are looking for things but that is after you have done your own searches. Remember Facebook isn’t a replacement for Google so try that first and then when all else fails ask a question in a group but make sure the question is clear.